<p>I agree with Fowora. By telling your kids no will not prevent them from drinking or having sex. Kids and even adults drink to be accepted or feel more at ease at social situations. My main concern for my kids is safety, and then their social well being. We discussed a lot at home about drinking responsibly. I have gone as far as telling my older daughter to just nurse a cup (not glass, because everyone uses disposable cups at parties) of beer at parties. My older daughter was a very social person in HS, at the same time she didn’t feel she needed to get trashed or do random hookups at parties to be accepted by her peers. She said it’s people on the fringe that tried harder to fit in. They did crazy things at parties (drink more, hookup more) then blamed it on alcohol the next day. I think kids that feel good about themselves will try alcohol and then move on, kids that have low self esteem will always use alcohol (or drugs) as tools to make themselves feel better. Maybe that’s what parents should address, not alcohol itself.</p>