My friend’s daughter didn’t do well at a school 2000 miles away. She is an excellent student, but has to live at home for it to work as she needs a lot of structure to her day, and most schools just don’t want to be that restrictive with their students (dorms, meal times, class schedules, changes to schedules for weather or illness of a professor,noise levels). Luckily, they live in a city with several schools to choose from, and she’s able to take public transportation to school. It really took an adjustment to the parents’ expectations and dreams, but now everyone is happier with the second school.