Am I good enough to get in to Exeter or Andover?

My concern is that you might not be able to handle the rigors and social pressures of attending boarding school if you truly believe you might have a nervous breakdown if you were to repeat a grade, especially since even as a “repeater”, you would have classmates who were older and perhaps even more accomplished. The fact that you would consider it “giving up” and that you fear it would trigger a breakdown is a big red flag for me.