<p>applicantmum77, keep us updated. I hope the weather clears up a bit and it isn’t pouring the whole trip!
I don’t know the reason with boys and overnights, but I did hear anecdotally, that it depends on what you are looking for. A “party” type, going to a “party” school might find rooming with guys that love that great, a “nerd” wouldn’t. Many guys I hear, feel a need to act macho or make certain experiences seem like the norm, while females will go into little details about everything and putting on an “image” isn’t important.
My son, and his friends from my memory, stayed the day from 8am until about 8pm with close colleges and if it was far, would stay the night, but didn’t think it helped one way or the other. If you had a great room, great hosts, does that mean you wont get the “roommate from hell” yourself?
No college is perfect for everyone…I hear, being next door, so to speak,complaints about Yale, Wesleyan, etc. and some say, “I’d never want my kids to go here”. I met a woman that hated NYU, loved Amherst her transfer, another hated Yale (grad student) but loved Macalaster, her undergrad. You will find students that dislike a college but will stay because of the name and recognition. Hopefully, your child finds enough to make them happy. My niece made me laugh when she said, I loved my college, miss things, but not enough to make me want to go back". I guess many of her firends still were hanging on to the memories, not wanting to “grow up” and join the real world. Every transition is hard, but I knew what she meant.</p>