<p>Bowdoinchick13 and royal173, you’ve both made very valid points in articulate ways, and have relieved my anxiety somewhat. What I guess I was imagining in a larger environment, let’s say Boston, is that there might be more chances for dating; that middle ground between instant sex and a committed relationship. To come a little to purplegirls defense, my friends and I charted the sexual freedom course in the old days, and many of us ended up in therapy. The problem with instantaneous sex without some dating behavior (getting to know someone) is that emotional intimacy is much harder and scarier than physical intimacy. It’s like anything else, you have to learn it and practice it to get good at it.</p>