<p>{{ You clearly were not the person who posted the negative reaction to TD’s orignal post}}</p>
<p>And I was? Give me a break. I said nothing-- read absolutely nothing-- about TDs reference to Smith having an active gay community, except for a joke about how big a shadow the gay community casts. Comon, get a sense of humor.
And BJM8s comment about wanting to get away from the gay discussions was innocuous </p>
<p>I was upset about references to unwanted sexual advances, and for very good reason. If a woman or parent (youll understand someday when you have kids) thought unwanted sexual advances (people will automatically think the worse) transpired at Smith–no matter how fewer than at a co-ed, it could have a very detrimental effect on recruitment.</p>
<p>Btw- There isn’t a single sentence about unwanted advances on another college thread that I know of.
Theres a good reason for that.</p>
<p>I can assure you, if that comment was made on a message board read around the world regarding a business/company, and Smith is a business, every corporate attorney, Board member, HR executive, and the CEO would have had their cell phones smoking. </p>
<p>TD meant absolutely no harm and I didnt accuse him of such. Please dont jump down my throat for pointing out a sentence imo, albiet with no harm intended, that shouldn’t have been posted.</p>
<p>[[am straight, but was on the recieving end of a few advances from gay women this year, especially at the beginning of the year when my sexual orientation was probably unknown]] I found it somewhat flattering]]</p>
<p>Im glad you were flattered. Not all Smithies are like you. If it was the workplace,-- and as I said, Smith is a business-- there could be serious repercussions if the advances were done in an obscene manner or repeated. There is an entire industry of consultants who do nothing but give lectures and classes to companies, college administrators, college students, et al on how to avoid any <em>hint</em> of inappropriate sexual behavior. On some campuses students are required to take a short course on what constitutes inappropriate behavior. Laurel, students have been brought up for discipline at /numerous colleges/ for said behavior. Thats the point I was attempting to make. Seriously, not everyone is flattered or as understanding as you. What can I say, youre more understanding and decent than many others. </p>
<p>Fwiw- I dont know a straight woman except you who was propositioned. In all fairness, I dont know the entire student body, or even close :)</p>
<p>Laurel, I said Gay women “always act respectably and courteously toward their straight peers” --as, case in point, one did to you, even though she didn’t yet know you were straight but may have assumed you were. You made my point. What was argumentative about my statement?</p>
<p>Maybe I should have said Gay women dont make unwanted advances toward straight women they <em>know</em> are straight —but the meaning should have been clear. The comment was for prospective students and their parents to put their mind at ease. It had /nothing/ to do with arguing with TD, as you seem to want to believe.</p>
<p>You acknowledged your orientation was unknown when advances were made. Now that the gay community knows you are /straight/, are you still receiving unwanted advances? Im assuming you arent. That was my point.</p>
<p>Youre not going to get your ignore feature, and you obviously seem to want to argue with me, If you think about it, youre doing exactly what you accuse me of doing. Lets let this go. We got off on the wrong foot when you misunderstood my comment about wasting <em>my</em> time (not others wasting theirs) reading HP and my being totally clueless as to what was being discussed or TD’s HP reference. OK, I’m guilty of HP ignorance, but is that such a crime ?
It was downhill from there, but theres no reason for this animosity. Truce? :)</p>