<p>I’m on my phone but this is the post I had about my d and the wedding she is attending on New Years <a href=“Black Tie Optional - Parent Cafe - College Confidential Forums”>Black Tie Optional - Parent Cafe - College Confidential Forums;
<p>Not sure if it’s helpful </p>
<p>The 3rd dress is a more sophisticated look for a family black tie wedding in CT. The first dress is lovely, but nothing special, very, very young looking. </p>
<p>I’m wondering what is the weather like in March in NY? If she goes with the sleeveless ones will she need to wear something over her shoulders?</p>
<p>I’m old-fashioned about this; I don’t wear black to a wedding unless I’m trying to make a point. A navy cocktail dress is just as versatile, so I’d go with that.</p>
<p>She should plan to have a wrap or something if she wears sleeveless. It could be very cold in NY in March. There could be two feet of snow on the ground. She doesn’t have to wear her shoulder covering all evening, but it will be nice to have if she gets chilled.</p>
<p><a href=“http://store.delias.com/category/clothes/dresses.do”>http://store.delias.com/category/clothes/dresses.do</a>
Look at these steals</p>
<p>Saint fan - I think all three dresses are fine. I particularly like the third, but whatever looks best on her. </p>
<p>I think the Delia’s stuff will look too young and cheap and not project the sophisticated look she wants. </p>
<p>Also, since Delias is going out of business, if you buy something and it doesn’t fit, there are no returns or exchanges.</p>
<p>So explain this again (in case DS starts attending weddings…). Black tie can be a dark suit, not tuxedo? </p>
<p>Black tie is supposed to be tuxedo, but in point of fact a dark business suit is acceptable. What are they oing to do, kick you out? It’s kind of an over zealous request! </p>
<p>A short black dress is appropriate. I am not so crazy about any of the dresses shown in these links in particular. The first dress I thought also was a little young looking. There will be lots of dresses for sale within the next few weeks so she might be able to get a more expensive and better designed dress on sale</p>
<p>A dark suit at a black tie event in Seattle or San Francisco - certainly! NYC can be more formal. I think it is a good idea for a young man to get a nice dark suit and tailor it so it looks good. It does not have to be super expensive. The suit will be handy for many functions that might come up: job interviews, weddings, funerals.</p>
<p>I am not sure that a 21 yr old should try to look older by selecting a more “mature” looking dress, but I agree that she can do better when it comes to finding a nice lbd. In just 3 days there should be plenty more party dresses on sale :)</p>
<p>She has purchased one that is “more mature” than the first and fancier than the others with the advice of the BF. </p>
<p>Awesome! :)</p>