@skieurope Feel like your post kind of tries to invalidate what my son experienced. IMO, its helpful to deal with things that actually happen rather than sweep under the rug.
The poster asked for moms of gay sons to report about their experience of son choosing housing. I am a mom of a gay son. I answered honestly about what happened to him. This happened, not going to pretend it didn’t, nor blame my son for reporting it or speaking up to the person/ calling it out when it did happen.
Can you imagine someone calling up a roommate and saying to a black student “I can’t room with you bc my parents don’t want me rooming with any black people- we don’t associate with black people.” My son had every right to tell the student (who is in Wharton to study business and a coca-cola scholar working with marginalized groups) that it was literally housing discrimination and illegal in Philadelphia… So if he plans on being in business and working with marginalized groups, its not good practice to blatantly discriminate. (At least make something up, rather than try and make someone feel inferior and harm them due to innate sexual orientation that is protected by law at least in Philly). There isn’t a “I’m A Christian” exemption from fair housing laws.
As to hate mongering outside preachers that come on campus, unfortunately lgbt are the only class of people they are attacking on campus…there haven’t been any racist preachers spewing racism or anti-semitic preachers spewing anti semitism… or any other attacking someones identity…There are student groups that are pro life and anti abortion but they are told to be very careful not to invalidate women who have had abortions just the action of abortion itself…
IMO, it is better as a mom to be aware of what is actually happening, so you can counsel accordingly if need be, than to go in blindfolded. (My advice to my son was to avoid the preacher and not engage with him at all- the guy wants attention, don’t give him any and don’t even walk by him).
As to frats, my son rushed with 3 other out gay students, none were given a bid. He knows 4 more out gay students that rushed other frats and they didn’t get bids either. He does know gay students who are in frats and in his discussions with them, they all said they were not out when they rushed… but came out later, and that the frat was accepting of them then. I threw this bit in as a FWIW bc in my son’s opinion ( he discussed this w me) if you want to get in a frat it might be easier if you aren’t out during the rush process. I threw it in so poster can counsel her son if she chooses.
Don’t get me wrong, My son loves his school and has met many many students that are accepting!!
@Massmomm I am truly thankful for evangelicals like you!! Thanks for working to end ignorance and hurtful paradigms towards lgbt and Christianity…