<p>There are a lot of great thoughts in this thread:</p>
<p>-I have been through all this a few times and in retrospect, I think the comment about “couch time” is really important. Kids are so busy they never get adequate down time to decide what they not their parents want them to do.</p>
<p>-I too will be off soon to bug my honor student son to call the coach of his high reach school to see what is up and whether he will be getting help in the admissions process. He really is not sure he want to continue to play so it is impossible to get him to make these calls. If he does not want to play I respect that, but in the meantime…</p>
<p>-Kids need to find a school they like and will be happy with. I see no problem sitting down with them in their junior year and starting to discuss including budgets. It is a great part of the growing process and it does get their wheels turning. </p>
<p>-The most important thing is no matter what, let them pick the school.</p>