<p>condor30’s post reminds of something that might be of value to others reading this thread (didn’t apply to us and don’t think it applies to OP… but important in the general discussion).</p>
<p>As condor says, sometimes the move is precipitated by a crisis (hospitalization, sudden and dramatic change in status…). This happened to a friend of mine. She had been caring for her parents in their own home for a long time, far longer really than made any sense. But - and this was a dozen or so years ago - it was just not a comfortable thought to anyone in her family to “put” them in Assisted Living or any type of long-term care facility.</p>
<p>Fast forward to the crisis moment. As you might imagine, when the move has to be made in 24 hours or so, there are far fewer choices… far less time to research… zero time to prepare. With no advance notice, my friend had only one option for her parents; and it was neither the location, quality or “style” they would have preferred. But there was no choice. Because of waiting until the crisis moment.</p>
<p>So… as difficult as it can be (it was for our family) to broach the subject with a reluctant parent… as difficult as it can be to actually arrange the move somewhat against their preferences, it is better probably to go at least some distance in the whole process. Do the research, visit places, talk about it, take the parent on some tours (many have them to lunch etc. to let them get a feeling), perhaps get on a waiting list (you can always decline the spot when it comes up; we did a couple of times). </p>
<p>In our case, we finally helped her make the move; even though she was not enthusiastic. And, as I mentioned before, in her case she found to her surprise that she relished her new arrangement.</p>