@schroengang @TomSrOfBoston @Sybylla Thank you all for your thoughts and comments!
To address them: My mother stopped getting alimony two years ago, and the child support my dad paid stopped in January when I turned 18 (would that be grounds for an appeal given that it was close to 10k a year). I actually did have the “paying for college discussion” with my parents last year. My dad told me not to worry about it and that he would pay for my college tuition (as he did for my older sister). However, I came out as gay to my dad a little over a month ago, and he told me to forget about him paying for college and that until I stopped being gay, he wants nothing to do with me.
As for my stats, I attend a private high school in Wyoming (that my mother works at so we get discounted tuition). I have a 33 ACT (a 35 super scored) and a 3.93 GPA—I have a 4.0 for my Sophomore and Junior years, and I currently have a 4.0, so only my Freshman year I didn’t get straight As. I took 9 AP courses during high school out of the 10 my school offers (the other one being French—I took Spanish). I got 4s and 5s on all of them. I also took SAT 2s. I got an 800 on Math 2, an 800 on Chem, and a 790 on Spanish.
I applied to Swarthmore, UChicago (more on that later), Princeton, Yale, Brown, Dartmouth, Middlebury, Haverford, Reed, Carleton, Georgetown, and the University of Wyoming (accepted + merit scholarship covers everything, but I can’t stand this school, and I really NEED to leave WY).
I actually found out I got into UChicago about an hour ago. I hadn’t checked my portal (plus I kind of assumed I got rejected). UChicago offered me $40k in FA, so I’m unsure why Swarthmore didn’t offer me any. Granted, I also know that UChicago didn’t take any info from the non-custodial parent. While I do like UChicago, I still would prefer to go to Swarthmore given that I’d really like to go to a LAC, but if I can’t get more aid from Swat then I’d be happy to go to UChicago.