Every late summer we read posts from parents who have been dragging their rising senior around on college visits and the question for the crowd is “how can I get my kid interested in going to college”. So the crowd asks questions- stats, interests, EC’s, etc. and gradually a picture emerges- kid has been an indifferent student through HS (and often middle school as well); key interests are in maintaining a social life or gaming or sports or going to the beach to hang with friends; there is no evidence whatsoever of any intellectual drive and no evidence that the kid is what we used to describe as “college material”.
But due to social pressure, parental anxiety, etc. and despite suggestions from the experienced parents here that they consider a gap year, apprenticeship in electrical/plumbing/arborist/ etc, or have the kid do some testing (undiagnosed learning issues? get at some vocational interests?) the parents double down- my kid is going to college next year.
So let’s all remember this thread next time we read one of these “why doesn’t my kid jump up and down when we visit such picturesque and quaint campuses?” or “who wouldn’t love to live in downtown (fill in the blank city) with cool restaurants”.
College- at the end of the day- is still designed around a medieval construct- students and scholars. All the climbing walls and sushi bars in the world haven’t changed the basic operational format. A kid who shows up for Freshman year who is unable to read college level material is going to have a rough go.
I am very sympathetic to parents who have kids who have not walked the narrow path educationally. But sending a kid off to college hoping for “support” (whether practical- someone to wake your kid up in the morning and haul them out of bed, or skills-specific for remediation) is going to be a risky endeavor even when you think you’ve picked the best possible environment.
Yes- the communication from this college is vulgar in the extreme. But it gets at a reality that a lot of people would rather not deal with- there are kids going to college who will not benefit from a college education that is in any way commensurate with the investment being made.
I’ve sat in on a math class at my local CC (a friend of mine teaches there and described this course as “the hardest we offer”). No, not hard because of the actual math (a smart fourth grader in a good elementary school could have whizzed through the problems). But hard because the class caters to the entire spectrum of CC students- those who are there because they can’t afford college without a full time job and classes at night (but who are smart, ambitious, and studious); those who are there because they slept through HS and this is the only institution which would take a chance on them; those who struggled with LD’s and made it through HS with a C- average but who are hard, hard workers, etc.
But one thing became clear to me- the instructor was not going to go home with every student at night and make sure the homework got done. You want to learn math? I’m your guy. You don’t want to learn math? That’s on you. You have trouble learning math? I can help you with some strategies, but I’m not certified in the right techniques depending on your disability. Your parents want you to learn math which is why you are here but you yourself have zero interest in worksheets, homework, and memorization of formula? Go tell your parents they are wasting their money.