<p>I too got a “stay the course” but dont you think that the degree of involvement depends on the child? Some kids just have their acts together and others need all the help they can get. I remember being horrified when one mom told me she was totally hands off - letting her son pick whatever schools he chose to and not even attending parent meetings at the school about the college search. Her son had his act together and is now at the Tisch school at NYU but had auditions at several other schools. Not sure I could do that but then my kids weren’t quite as together…</p>