<p>I think a lot depends on the kids & circumstances. For me, I needed to be involved because at the point when S was applying, he spent about 1/2 of his junior & senior years lying in bed, too ill to do much. I can’t imagine backing down & doing less than I did. He, the universities and I wanted my level of involvement, particularly in talking with the disabilities office to be sure they could meet his needs.</p>
<p>In the final analysis, I guess it has worked quite well, since both kids are happy at their dream U. S is graduating on schedule & has several job offers to choose among & D is planning to graduate either within 4 years after she left HS or soon therafter. Both seem quite happy with life.</p>