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<p>pg: If you and your husband were both working in challenging careers while your children were young, someone was taking care of the children. Correct? Wasn’t the individual or individuals taking care of your children “supporting” you (and your husband) in your work? Wasn’t childcare a necessity? Now - how did you in turn support that individual or individuals? With a salary? Let’s consider the difference between your salary (and your husband’s salary) and the usual salary of a childcare worker. If the childcare worker happens to have children, who takes care of them? Does she have to pay someone out of the salary you pay her?</p>
<p>Maybe your mom or mil took care of the kids. But it is sort of the same point. You probably didn’t get to have children and a career without support from some source, even if you were hiring it.</p>
<p>If you have small children and a job outside the home - someone has to take the responsibility for day to day hands on childcare for you to do your job.</p>
<p>Is that someone to value? and support?</p>
<p>the message board mommy wars are just a distraction
most mothers have to earn money to survive</p>