article on opting out of parenthood for financial reasons

[Pizzagirl]

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Yes we are using support in different ways. We may not need the support and approval of society at large (or the other ladies in our neighborhood or the men in our offices) for our personal decision to either work outside the home or stay home with small children. We may need the support of others to realize that personal decision.

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<p>OK, fine - we cross-posted. But I don’t see how that’s different from any other life decision. I don’t need the “support” of the ladies down the block to buy a new car, but I need my husband’s support, since it’s a decision that impacts him and our finances and I’m not going to go buy a new car without his input and agreement. So now I feel we’re getting back to a statement of the obvious – of course we all need to take into account those who are personally affected by decisions in order to make them. But the working/SAHM decision isn’t just about that. There’s this broader need to want others who AREN"T CONCERNED feel “good” about the choice which I don’t get.</p>