Asian Parents Frenzy

Here is my suggestion. Write your parents a long and careful letter in which you acknowledge their desire fore your success, all they have done to contribute to it, and your fears of disappointing them. In writing this letter, you will putting the ball in their court, asking them to own the pressure and take responsibility for monitoring their disappointments (if there are any). I do not know your parents, but since they care about your success, I expect that they care about your emotional states (if only as an aid to succeeding). You might want to ask them about how they understand success in your life and theirs.Writing a letter will help you set out your worries accurately and it will help them respond carefully.

As a parent of an obnoxiously driven college student and a relaxed HS kid, I know that success and its definition is always under negotiation in many families. I am just happy we are not including sports in our family negotiations.

I know this is the hardest time as the last acceptances come in. A year from now, whatever happens, will feel very different. Hugs!