I’m an American. My husband is India. The college process has been…challenging.
I think that the pressure comes from three places - love, lack of full knowledge, desire for a secure future for the child.
Most people are not aware of the depth of American colleges and universities - they have heard of 10-12 so those are the only ones they think are worth anything, (It is not the entire Ivy League btw - just ask them about Brown…most likely never heard of it!)
Once my husband did his own research - things got better.
You also need to convince them you can get a good job from the schools you are interested in. Talk about internships, job office, placements, etc…
They love you - they just show it in a different way.
This too shall pass!