This is not an Asian issue–it is an “immigrant striver” issue. The same thing was observable in Jewish immigrant families in the past, and it’s observable in immigrants from non-Asian countries (such as many Africans) as well. I think the issue may be exacerbated in people who grew up in countries where specific tests, and admission to specific colleges really did determine your fate. This focus on high-stakes testing also leads to the idea that the key to success is “studying,” which isn’t really the case if what you’re trying to get is admission to selective U.S. colleges. I share the view expressed by others that this situation will improve as parents understand the educational culture of the United States better.