^^^ I agree with VeryHappy. How about shifting her dinner up by 15 minutes. My Portuguese Water dog demands dinner around 4pm + or - 15 minutes. I used to feed him later with us, but adapted to an earlier time because he desired it. He isn’t much of a barker aside from demanding dinner, wanting to play or going in the yard.
One of our sweet dogs who is no longer with us used to come find me at 4:30 everyday and bark to tell me that it was time to get her dinner ready. Our other dogs don’t do that. It took me a while to get past missing that time each day after we lost her.
A friend’s mother had a dog several years ago, a mini-Schnauzer, who knew that it was dinner time when The Young and the Restless ended at 5:00. As soon as the music over the closing credits started, she would jump up and run to the kitchen barking. 
Teach your puppy to sit on your verbal command “sit”. Then when your adorable puppy wants to jump on others, just issue the command. He/she will sit but continue to look adoringly at the visitor, wagging his/her tail enthusiastically, while the visitor rewards him/her with loving petting on the head and scratching behind the ears.
Our puppy has learned “sit” but still can’t really control himself. When we sternly command “sit,” he immediately does, but then just literally can’t control himself to be still around a guest. He either hurls himself against the visitor’s legs or jumps straight up in the air, and then throws himself on the floor, tummy up, for petting. He has quit actually jumping on people.
I train my dogs for dog agility and compete most weekends. Translation: I love training dogs and do it obsessively. I have found that the best way to train my dogs not to jump on people is to train them to jump up on command. My command is two parts. With my older girl, I pat my chest and say “mug me!” She gets a cookie if and only if I give both parts of the command. With my younger boy, he’s strong enough to knock me over (big standard poodle), so I out my arm out to the side and say “up!” Once I set the goal of a two part instruction to jump on me, and only rewarded (yes, with special treats) when both instructions were given, the dogs no longer considered jumping on strangers worth the effort.
If you’re wondering why I like the dogs to put their paws up, it’s a good stretch for them before they compete. I also have them bow on cue. And the cue “ostrich” tells them to put their head between my thighs so I can massage their hips.
Oh, this is making me cry. We took our sweet girl in for dental work the other day and found out she has an inoperable tumor in her neck that is pressing on her trachea. They debulked it somewhat (and last night her regular barking voice returned, which made me cry, too), but right now she is getting loved and spoiled to pieces for every day we are still blessed to have her.
Our girl “remonstrates” with us if we don’t give her her “due” (a treat) when we come home. “Coming home” includes after going to the mailbox, taking the trash to the curb…you get the idea. She doesn’t jump on people or mooch at the table…we have her foster mom to thank for that. She’s the least alpha dog I’ve ever seen.
If S2 or DH aren’t home by their usual time in the evening, she goes to the door and watches for them.
@CountingDown I’m sorry to hear about your sweet girl. hugs Such difficult news to get. Cherish each day you have with her.
I agree with others, there is a difference between spoiled and untrained. We have two rescue pups that we got at 3 months old (probably the youngest we have had), they are now 9 months old, and it was rough sledding at times. They are loving dogs, but once they felt at home they became like typical pups, they are full of energy, and my lord do they love to chew (anything and everything, the other day my wife caught one of them with an old nail…go figure). The big thing is to be consistent in my opinion, if you do one thing one time and one another, it confuses them. So if you have a rule about no pets on the sofa or bed, stick with it (if you want to do it on demand, you have to train them for that, if they go up on their own, push them off and let them know it is wrong, or train them if they go up when you don’t want to jump off (bribery helps). If the dog has an accident, yelling at them won’t work,I would recommend cleaning it up but don’t interact with them either way, don’t praise them, don’t say “oh, bad puppy”, and don’t give them a treat anytime around finding the accident, wait a while, even if there is something you want to reward.
In terms of jumping up on people, you have to be consistent with that, so if they jump up on you or family members, don’t allow them to, same if when you come home they charge the door, let it be known that is not allowed, push them down, and don’t squeal and say “oh, puppies love me” (my wife does that…I am not hard hearted, not a great trainer, but still). Dogs don’t distinguish necessarily between what is permissible with their own pack and with outsiders, so it is important not to encourage it even inside.
With things like chewing, that is a puppy thing, try to keep things out of their way (closets are a toy box to them). If they chew furniture, besides making it evident you aren’t happy, bitter apple spray on the thing can help.
If a dog is misbehaving, having a squirt bottle of water can work, spray them in the face when doing something bad, it may help (works on one of my dogs, the other one likes it, and with water dogs like retrievers may be fun for them, still haven’t found a replacement yet). Some people use a can with pennies in it, if they misbehave you rattle it, they don’t like the sound.
One of the biggest is dogs begging when you eat. If you like to give dogs a small treat of table food, don’t ever give it to them at the table, even if it is ‘at the end of the meal’. Wait until you are done, and put it in their bowl or on a plate away from the table. If you don’t feed them there (I had to get my wife to admit she was doing it when I wasn’t around), they will learn patience.
Dogs are pack animals, and the most important thing is establishing that you or someone in your family is the alpha, the most ill trained dogs IMO are dogs who have assumed they are the alpha, and when that happens you run into stubborn , willful dogs who won’t listen (yeah, yeah, know, that is the MO of border collies and australian shepherds, but even they respond to an alpha). If a dog is misbehaving, you can help get them under control by grabbing them by the nape of the neck and putting your chin on it (friend of mine who is great with dogs actually nips them there, simulating what a pack alpha would do), it asserts dominance in a way they know. If you have two puppies (ours are litter mates, not that they look it) it is important they bond as much or more with you then each other.
It is not a short term process, you don’t just train a puppy one day and that is it. Dogs remain pups for up to 2 years, and you have to stay with it the whole time. I highly recommend seeking out training classes for you and your family (some will allow a whole family to do it), a lot of the biggest rescue places and shelters often have training programs (if you are in the northern NJ area, St. Huberts in Madison has really, really great training classes, wonderful people). I would recommend not just taking once class and saying “that’s it”, dogs learn at different paces, so if they had trouble in the basic class, there is nothing wrong with repeating it, to reinforce what was learned. Likewise, the classes are as much for us as it is the dog, and you need to practice, learning to teach a dog to sit or lay down or leave it or whatnot is great, but you need to reinforce it, so for example, don’t give a treat by itself, use it to reinforce a behavior. If the dog asks to go out to do business, reward them for doing so, if giving a nibble of something you are eating (dogs love fruit), have them sit or better yet, sit, and use it to train them only to take it when you say okay.
There are people who think things like having the dog on the bed is spoiling them, or the furniture (we allow the couches, which have covers on them, but not our bed), or giving them table scraps (within reason, I am talking small portions balanced by the amount of dog food they get), but spoiling is when you do such things without rules, again it is consistency. You can’t get mad at a dog if you let them on the couch, for example, then you have guests and they jump up, if you want control of when they go up, teach them that, that they only go when invited and/or train them to get off when you say so and stay off until invited again.
There are days when I look at my now big puppies and am amazed at how beautiful and happy they are, and thre are times when I want to kill them, when they found a weakness in the fence and one of them escaped (merry chase that was), or when they go out in freezing weather and refuse to stop barking, especially if it is 6 in the morning and I don’t want them disturbing the neighbors.
As far as cats demanding to be petted or otherwise bossing you around, well, that is cats. George Carlin had a great routine about the difference between cats and dogs. He said "you have a dog, and you go out to get the mail, you come back in and the dog is like “oh, boss, you have been away so long, I love you, pet me, kiss me”…you get deployed in the military for a couple of years, come home, and the cat looks at you and yawns and says “oh, you were gone?”.
Old joke. Adam was running around the Garden of Eden before Eve, and was getting bored and lonely, moping around. The animals in the garden got tired, so complained to God that Adam was being a real downer, could he do something. God smiled and said “I have just the thing”, summons Adam, and said “I have here a companion for you, its name is dog. He will be loyal and love you”. Sure enough dog bonds to Adam, worships him, but soon another problem happens, Adam gets a swelled head, tells the animials “Look what I have, dog worships me, I am so special”, and otherwise is insufferable.
The animals go back to God and complain that Adam is being such a jerk, they can’t stand him, since he got dog. God thinks about it a bit, then says “don’t worry, leave it to me” and summons Adam. He tells Adam “I have another companion for you, its name is cat”…and from that time forward, Adam was sufficiently humbled and peace reigned.
This is the key.
Both my pups let me know when it’s time for their dinner (4:30) and let H know in the morning when it’s breakfast time (little one paws on his head, never mine.)
They also demand a treat when H comes home from work. They run to the drawer where we keep their cookies.
My older (10 1/2 years) dog has been engaging in some behavior that might be related to cognitive decline or might be garden-variety anxiety. She sometimes paces at night. The vet, a very kind and compassionate person, said that even though it might seem natural to want to pet and comfort my dog when she comes into the room during her pacing, it’s probably better to not do so, because my comforting her every time reinforces the pacing and conveys that she should be anxious. I’m working on this.
I made up hand signals with our dog to go with commands. Nothing learned formally, but she picked up on it. Has worked out well as she has gotten older and her hearing has declined.
Took her a long time to lay down and STAY there. She gets into the position, holds it for a second and then pops up saying “Mom! I did it! Gimme that cookie!” We had to break it into two separate commands, and to practice “stay” I would leave the room and walk around from the kitchen through the LR and DR to come back in from the other side.
We did a training class at Petsmart not long after we adopted her. S1, S2 (12 and 13 at the time) and I all went together. Highly recommend other family members going, as we were all on the same page about being consistent in commands and expectations. Good people training!