Banks within walking distance at Yale?

[fogfog]

<p>MCAT, I am confuse. Are you talking about an 18 yr old in New Haven or a grad student?</p>

<p>I should think a grad student will negotiate these issues well…being a young adult…</p>

<p>An undergrad/frosh will have no use for a car, and if your student did–Zip car is an option.</p>

[mcat2]

<p>fogfog, DS used to be an UG at Yale, but a grad student now, which means he has lost the privilege of living in a residential college and eating the food in a residential college. I heard the food at Marigold is not as nice, and the food will be weighed to determine how much it will cost. (The atheletes who eat more than the average will be in “money trouble.”)</p>

<p>Be grateful when yours is still a UG there. Yale indeed takes care of UG students very well because they are not quite a “young adult” yet. DS heard of a “funny” story from the other side: Some non-UG students who worked in a research lab once complained to DS that, while they have some concerned about whether they will continue to have drinking water being provided, a RC has a water fall/beach. DS needed to explain to them that the water fall is really a tiny one. They probably imagined that Yale built a delux one like the one you would see at Disney World for the UG students to enjoy.</p>

<p>Regarding “will negotiate these issues well…being a young adult…”, well, hopefuly, you will be able to “cut the cord” better than I do when it is time for you to do so. It takes some time for a helicopter parent to get off the helicopter :)</p>

[entomom]

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It takes some time for a helicopter parent to get off the helicopter

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<p>Maybe by residency ?!?</p>

[fogfog]

<p>hahahaha MCAT…
yes you are funny–it is time for you to get off the helicopter–a grad student should certainly be able to handle an apartment and cooking for oneself etc., paying bills, handling car repairs, making calls to handle personal business…</p>

<p>Gosh At 22 I was married, paying a mortgage and working full time and then went to grad school at night…in a major northeastern city.</p>

<p>So going to grad school in the same town as where you went to undergrad should be a snap. </p>

<p>Deep breaths…the time is now.</p>

[fogfog]

<p>Much love and hugs MCAT2</p>

<p>Did you see this story this week…</p>

<p>[Raising</a>, rearing and wrangling with your ?adultescent? child - books - TODAY.com](<a href=“http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/47864068/ns/today-books/t/raising-rearing-wrangling-your-adultescent-child/?fb_ref=.T-B1lAZiwX8.like&fb_source=profile_multiline]Raising”>http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/47864068/ns/today-books/t/raising-rearing-wrangling-your-adultescent-child/?fb_ref=.T-B1lAZiwX8.like&fb_source=profile_multiline)</p>

<p>We were discussing issues od delayed maturity on a thread…Stay At Home Sons in the Parents forum as well…</p>

[mcat2]

<p>This paragraph from your link is funny:</p>

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Who wants to go to dental school when there are movies to write and direct? Snookums, how do you become a writer of screenplays or director of films, asks the sheepish parent. Snookums proceeds to accuse Mom and Dad of being bourgeois enough to suggest that college is about preparing for a job, not learning for learning’s sake and/or finding himself. At this point many parents retreat, chastened…

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<p>A few years ago, there was a news about a Yale College graduate who, at the age of 30, was still obsessed with playing the classic “Star War” game (trying to break the world record) and just started to go to some professional school (I think near Portland, OR.) When DS read the article about it at that time, he actually thought he had a very good attitude about how to live a life. Also, one of his friends at Yale actually could not care less about whether he would be able to graduate “on time.” (He did though. But he is one of those students who really could not care less about the grades, even though he is very intelligent. I heard he tended to read everything except what the professors assigned, unless the professor/college happened to assign something to his taste, like working on the senior project, which he had completed a full year prior to the graduation.)</p>

<p>I think one of the best decision we made was to send our child thousands miles away for college. This really enables him to “grow up.” In recent years, he gently reminded us several times that he could handle this or that by himself when we were trying to “help.” It is often the case that the parent, not the child, who does not want to cut the cord. I suspect that it is likely that only after the child has found his/her steady “soul mate” that the parents will finally be “forced out.”</p>

<p>With this said, one of our “assignments” to ourselves in the coming year is to find a dependable car for him, at least to write a check for it as he really does not have any (positive) income. (Back to square one. LOL.)</p>

[fogfog]

<p>MCAT, you will like this…someone posted it on FB…pretty timely…</p>

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Northland College (NZ) principal John Tapene has offered the following words from a judge who regularly deals with youth…"Always we hear the cry from teenagers ‘What can we do, where can we go?’…My answer is, “Go home, mow the lawn, wash the windows, learn to cook, build a raft, get a job, visit the sick, study your lessons, and after you’ve finished, read a book. Your town does not owe you recreational facilities and your parents do not owe you fun. The world does not owe you a living, you owe the world something. You owe it your time, energy and talent so that no one will be at war, in poverty or sick and lonely again.” In other words, grow up, stop being a cry baby, get out of your dream world and develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Start behaving like a responsible person. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now and that somebody is you.

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<p>cheers</p>