<p>2dtimearound - It truly is acceptable to let one school know about another comparable school’s offer. No shame to it. All they can do is say, sorry, we’ve given as much as we can - or maybe they’ll say instead - let’s see what we can do. I’ve seen this happen time and time again.
On the other hand - if he doesn’t prefer Bard over Vassar - then perhaps it’s easier to just let the cards fall as they are.</p>