<p>USofArugula has some great insight.
As for the boys, you need not worry. They seem to generally be pretty ok with the 2000 or so females across the street. At the clubs fair, the CU programing initiative (which was full of nerdy but generally very cute guys) approached me because I “looked like I might be interested in being awesome.” They told me what they were all about, and I told them I have some graphic design experience but that I didn’t know as much as I’d like to, and two of them high-fived and another fistpumped. I asked if it was OK that I was from Barnard, and the guy who initially approached me pulled me in for a hug and goes “boys, we found her. she’s perfect.” I can PM you more info if you want me to get a little more personal, but I learned a lot at open house.
Just in general though, the best way not to be seen as a crazy feminist is not to be a crazy feminist, and not to say doesn’t have it’s share of them, because like any school (especial an urban one) they do, but Columbia and Barnard students alike will for the most part accept you for who you are, and as far as I can tell, the student body as a whole is pretty open to whoever that might be.</p>