I suggest you re open and here’s why. There are schools you can go dirt cheap if you got into those - i’ll throw them out - Arizona, UAH, Alabama, etc.
My reason is simply - you are looking for your son to commute to save money yet you are paying top $$. Part of going to college is - going to college. Living at home - is not going to college. It’s not the full experience, bonding with others, study groups, learning to do laundry, getting your own apartment, etc.
You are paying tuition for more than classes - and you are basically robbing him from that aspect of college.
You can go for way cheaper and have it all!!!
And that’s what I would do.
If you want to be close, i’m sure there are school s in the NE - won’t be near as cheap (under $100K all in most likely) - but will be similar money and give your child the deserved college experience.