I know Harvard, Yale and Princeton all have strong academic music departments, and I expect many (if not all) of the other colleges you’ve listed do as well. But except for Eastman, none of them has an undergraduate program geared towards someone who wants to pursue music performance as a career. Schools like Harvard, Yale and Princeton do attract some very talented musicians, some of whom go on to careers in music performance, but those student-musicians generally rely on resources outside the school for the bulk of their performance work. As I’ve posted elsewhere, my son turned down some top conservatories to go to Columbia, even though he is interested in music performance as a career, because he saw a path to continue performance in NYC outside of Columbia. Although Columbia has some significant jazz performance resources within the school, and my son makes full use of those resources, it’s really not enough by itself. He does signficantly more music performance outside Columbia than he does at Columbia.
So for the music performance side of things (again with the exception of Eastman), I think the key question will be what performance resources will be available to you outside the school. For example, if you’re at Penn, is it realistic to expect that you could pursue performance study with a teacher at Curtis. If you’re at Yale, is it realistic that you could study with faculty at YSM? (As someone noted earlier, most undergrad musicians at Yale are assigned to graduate students for lessons.) Also important is the extent to which you can get credits towards graduation from your performance work. My son gets a significant amount of credits from performance, which allows him to take fewer academic courses and frees up more time for practice and performance outside of school. Some colleges limit the amount of credits you can get for music performance.
It’s important to recognize that a college is never going to offer the kind of music immersion, particularly on the performance side, that you will find at a conservatory. So it’s going to take more work, and a lot of outside resources, to pursue music performance seriously while going to a non-conservatory college. It can be done, and there are people who do it successfully, but it’s a more difficult path than the conservatory route.