Just so you know, there are schools that will grant in-state tuition rates to military children. It’s hit-or-miss, but they do exist.
I second everyone saying get her into ballet ASAP. Contemporary is nice, but ballet is the basis of everything and is essential for posture and body awareness. The most important thing is for her to learn how to pick up choreography quickly. If you have good lines and can pick up quickly, it’s more likely that a school will take you without much experience. Even if there’s not much in the way of classes available, she can practice learning MT/jazz combinations from youtube videos.
On the other hand, don’t rule out BFA acting. There’s no rule anywhere that says you can’t audition for musicals without a MT degree. One of my daughter’s friends got a callback for Aladdin and Lion King in Chicago with a biology degree. She might be better off being an actor who can sing rather than an MT who can’t dance.
Since your D is a singer, one thing to check is who teaches the MT/T voice lessons. At some schools, it’s TAs and grad. students, at others you get full professors. I know for sure that Temple uses grad. students and for sure that Millikin uses professors.
Otherwise, to pare it down, look at the percent of students receiving aid and what the standards for merit aid are. Also check who goes to which unifieds if you’re thinking of going that route. If your state has a high school theatre fest or something like that, that’s a good place to audition for a bunch of schools at once. If nothing else, theatre fest auditions are practice even if she’s not interested in in-state schools. If you can do it, schedule her first audition for a school that is not in her top 3.