<p>@conmama,
Cosmetic surgery is best done when you, the patient, is ready to have it done…when the appearance of the eyelids bothers you enough to have it done. That being said, I will say that the surgery is got an pretty easy recovery and when you are done, you will wonder why you were so worried about it in the first place. Lastly, I would say that end of Dec is THE BUSIEST TIME for surgery because people are taking time off of work so it’s a natural time to schedule surgery and also because insurance patients are trying to fit in their surgery before their deductibles reset in Jan; so if you want that date range, you really need to book ASAP or plan on doing it in 2015. Most of my last 2 weeks in Dec are already booked up for surgery.<br>
If you are really too nervous, it’s fine to wait, but then you could try to plan for Dec 2015, or any time in 2015.</p>
<p>@YoHo…I am going to see WN on Tuesday, then make up my mind between RB and him. If I have it done this year I definitely would want it in December because I could take 3 weeks off. Thanks for letting me know about the scheduling, and I will definitely take that into consideration next week and make up my mind. Also, thanks for the reassurance that its a fairly easy recovery. When I look at all the pics on the Internet, I have to realize there are thousands of happy patients who just don’t talk about it on the Internet.</p>
<p>I hope I don’t scare my kids with my looks too much! They are 18 and 21, and will probably wonder what in the world I am doing! Plus…they’ll be telling their friends, who are kids of my good friends, so there will be no secret surgery…haha. </p>
<p>@VeryHappy , I do know on one of my consultations that there was a payment plan. I’m not sure what all you want to have done, though. One quote I got was $3600 upper only, $6100 upper and lower. $9200 upper, lower and brow lift. I’m just going for upper. My MIL had a brow lift and upper facelift at 64 and she looks great. Very tired eyelids but her surgeon just did the brow lift no bleph. It looks wonderful, she has a big eyelid, the part that closes, so a scar would have been more noticeable I think. The only thing I don’t like about it is that when she raises her eyebrows they go up really high, above the brow bone and I think that looks strange. Mi want to tell her not to do that.</p>
<p>@conmama, where are you located? </p>
<p>Indiana</p>
<p>@conmama I think that you have to ask yourself whether it is worth it at this stage. There are scars, and they do take a long time to really resolve. Not three weeks. Months. They are in the crease of the eyelid, so they aren’t really visible when your eyes are open, at least not when my eyes are open, but they are there. Mine are still gradually improving, but there’s no way that they would be hidden by eye makeup to the degree that they wouldn’t show if I close my eyes. It’s not just a mark, it’s a matter of skin texture along the line. </p>
<p>Now, my doctor told me that he had to take the maximum out in order to fix my problem, so I’m sure that is a factor. There are plenty of people on this thread who have had it done and are very pleased with the results. I’m VERY pleased with my results, but I had realistic expectations. I just wonder a bit in your case, because it sounds like you are expecting a little tweak that will heal up invisibly, and I don’t think that is a realistic expectation.</p>
<p>@consolation…thank you for your post. I really waffle from day to day, even hour to hour. Perhaps I’m not ready if I can’t make up my mind. You are right. I keep thinking it’s going to be, after 2 months, almost invisible. The Oculoplastic surgeon I saw 2 weeks ago said it would be in 3 months! So that is why I’ve been thinking that way. Well, you have given me food for thought and more questions to ask on Tuesday with my next consultation with Oculo #2. Sigh.</p>
<p>It has been about 3 mos since I had it done, and the scars are NOT gone, and NOT invisible. And they all thought I healed very well.</p>
<p>Does your extend beyond the V of the eye? Is it still red? You say it’s the texture, but wouldn’t an eyeshadow base, then eyeshadow sort of hide it all? It’s good to know your experience, thank you.</p>
<p>If you mean extend out to the side, yes it does, but that is by far the lightest portion of the scar. Yes, it is still lightly red. So is the lower part of my eyelid. It is still tender at times. I have not worn that much eye shadow in many years–since it did literally nothing for me before–so I don’t know exactly what you mean by an “eyeshadow base.” If you mean a light covering of powder eyeshadow in a neutral tone from lashes to brows, no, it would not cover it enough to actually hide it yet. </p>
<p>Again, remember that a lot more tissue was removed in my case that would be removed in yours, which possibly makes for a more noticeable transition between the upper and lower areas of the top lid.</p>
<p>An eyeshadow base if creamy…it gives something for the eyeshadow powder to stick to so you can see it. Laura Mercier makes a wonderful one, BTW. I just started using one this year, makes all the difference in the world. I will definitely be asking the surgeon what type of scar i will be receiving base on my skin only Bleph compared to taking out tissue. Thanks again Consolation. And I’m so happy that yours has worked out for you!</p>
<p>I think I need to go to Sephora for a consult! :)</p>
<p>I know there is makeup out there that helps hide scars. I think if you tried that, a shadow base and shadow you would see a world of difference. I love makeup and would love to help people look their best. Oh well…back to my boring accounting job. seriously…if you haven’t worn makeup a lot in the past I would star with Bobbi Brown as they are known for a more natural look. I would ease in to makeup with them. Also know that the lighting is horrible in those stores, so although it looks great in there you will feel like a clown in natural daylight.</p>
<p>Pay more attention to the application. Have them do one eye, then you do the other so they can show you. That really helps. I know it’s hard but don’t feel pressured to buy all stuff. </p>
<p>gosh, i’m so use to the scar from upper eyelids. I never leave the house without lipstick and eye shadow. I doubt anyone would notice the upper eyelid scar. Easy surgery, easy recovery.</p>
<p>I’m not a big makeup wearer these days. When I do wear it, light mineral makeup brushed over all, light blush brush, smudgy eyeliner underneath, a little light powder on the brow bone, and raspberryish red lip gloss. And now, mascara! Yeah!! I also use some dark brown shadow sometimes brushed over the eyeliner and lining the upper lid. I need to investigate using eye shadow more, now that I can. Smoky eye, here I come! :)</p>
<p>@bookworm …how long ago was your surgery and when did your scar not become red and as noticeable. Does your makeup cover it up? Does it extend beyond the V of your eyes? </p>
<p>I put A&D ointment on my eyelids for many weeks. They were red around the crease for months, then one day (5 to 6 months later), my friend told me that my eyes looked nice. I just went to see my ob-gyn, who also happens to do Botox. I asked him how much he charged for Botox. He said, “You don’t need Botox, your eyes look great, but I’ll do it if you really want it.”</p>
<p>@oldfort …it’s good to know everyone’s experience so I will be more realistic with my expectations like @Consolation tells me. I know I am going to have this done…it’s just a matter of when. The first doc can get me in Dec 11th…which is a perfect date to be healed enough for springbreak 2015. However, that seems it would be hard to do with getting ready for the holidays and I would miss out on all the parties, and shopping. Doesn’t seem quite fair to the family. I’m the host and basically do ALL at that time. Can’t do it again until the end of January, as the beginning is busy at work. It would be 9weeks at that point before springbreak…winter time and cocooning anyway. I am planning a belated 30th anniversary trip to Italy in Sep. 2015 and would love to have this healed a lot by then.</p>
<p>After 9 weeks for springbreak…if the scar is still red, I suppose I can cover if with scar concealer? If I don’t have it done in Jan, I will have to wait until the next Jan. I know it sounds so vain, but I would love to be pretty in Italy…haha.</p>
<p>I was out and about after a week by using some cover up. I did it the Fri before Thanksgiving, and went back to work after Thanksgiving. If you plan ahead, you could do bulk of your shopping before the surgery, and decorate the house the week you are staying in. This is not the kind of surgery that you can’t move or do anything, you’ll feel perfectly fine, but you wouldn’t want to go out to the public.</p>
<p>Yep, about a week. My surgery was 12 years ago. I believe I just used some neutral eyeshadow. I don’t recall any discomfort. </p>
<p>A physician friend was back at work within days, with stitches still in. She wore sunglasses, but showed all of us the stitches. That made me feel more confident. </p>
<p>Hmmmm…that is true. If I schedule it now, I can get all my shopping done in November, and we always decorate the tree the weekend after Thanksgiving anyway. I would be feeling fine the week of Xmas, probably just scare my younger nieces and nephews but maybe not Everyone could just pitch in this year anyway. I just would have to forego all the Xmas parties that i usually go to, but that’s not that big of a deal one year I suppose.</p>
<p>I go see the other doc on Tuesday. By next week the 1st Doc’s appt date might be taken up already, who knows? Thanks ladies…that makes me feel a bit better about doing it in December if I choose.</p>