<p>I also cannot imagine paying for son’s friends when they visit here. He is well cared for when he visits their families–sometimes well beyond anything I could ever dream of doing.</p>
<p>My ex’s family had a story about a visit from one of ex’s college friends visiting them while the “boys” were in college. (Ex, their son, was on campus then.) Friend was travelling the country that semester, working for a political campaign. Although Parents were charmed that Friend stopped by to say “hi” while in the area, they wanted him to leave so they could move on to supper. They finally gave up and asked Friend to join them. In the course of the meal, Friend revealed that he had not been paid in weeks, was out of money, and seriously hungry. </p>
<p>He had gone to the only people he knew in that part of the country.</p>
<p>My take-away on all this is–be kind. Your kids’ friends, romantic or platonic, are young and vulnerable. Treat each one as you would want his or her parents to treat your child. Some kids will remember your family as the best one they ever had.</p>