<p>Yep…its a great thread. I fully agree there is too much emphasis and NEUROSIS about attending a “prestige name school” as if the parents feel themselves a failure and the kids brandished for life as losers if they dont get in. While it is silly to knock ANY school, the prestige schools are indeed mostly worthy of their praise. But they are NOT the only game in town. A majority of CEO’s and Senior Executives in business and government indeed come from state schools and some smaller liberal arts colleges.</p>
<p>I have posted many times its all about fit and there is no such thing as One Size Fits All. Each person/student/parent/family has a different set of criteria and often enough money is at the top of the list.</p>
<p>There are over 3,000 colleges in the United States, many with remarkable faculty and programs, beautiful campuses and often recognized sports programs. For some, sports is key. For others its campus beauty or proximity to home. For others its a particular program.</p>
<p>Its also folly to presume that all the kids who score 650 or higher on their SAT I sections (critical reading, math, writing) automatically apply and attend only prestigious name schools. Wrong. </p>
<p>Some schools off the beaten path can claim numerous students in their admitted classes who have very high scores and gpa’s, and often get very good scholarships. Moreover, they are extremely happy.</p>
<p>Yes, some kids make mistakes and transfer. Or some kids still long for that prestigious parchment at the end of the road and transfer. Great! </p>
<p>But there are literally thousands of great schools out there for students to pick from.</p>
<p>In the south, including NCState, there is Randolph Macon Women’s College (now coed and called Randolph College as of 2007). Roanoke, Hollins College, Sweetbriar, Mary Washington, James Madison, USC-Columbia, Furman University (a SUPERB school…a stunning campus, which my D was admitted to, but graciously declined…did not want to go to school with a bunch of her high school buddies…wanted a new environment), Elon University (a rapidly renowned school gaining notoriety everyday…also a beautiful campus), UNC-Wilmington (with a very rigorous and prestigious marine bio program), Belmont College, Centre College of Kentucky, Rhodes College in Memphis, Georgia Tech, Virginia Tech, Georgia, George Mason, Clemson, Auburn, Tulane (truly a tragic situation there…a stunningly beautiful campus, a superb faculty, outstanding programs but sadly in Katrina torn New Orleans with all its problems…), I could go on for pages and pages…(no intent to insult anyone if I didnt mention “your college”.)</p>
<p>If your kid wants to go to Davidson, Duke, Vanderbilt, WashU, Chapel Hill, UVa, Harvard, Princeton, Yale or any of the Ivies…I tip my hat and wish you all the luck in the world. If your kid prefers a different school with a different program or “feel” to it, go for it.</p>
<p>As a final word, I would recommend ANY Jesuit college in the United States. A superb education, values driven, and those kids go onto great things in graduate and professional schools.</p>
<p>Where did my daughter end up after last years STRESS LADEN year of applications, ups and downs, and pleasant surprises?</p>
<p>Fordham University in New York. A superb school with many famous faculty (over 70% of whom are Ivy credentialed), a beautiful gothic campus surrounded by the New York Botanical Gardens and gorgeous Bronx Zoo. Many famous alumnae as well, including Vince Lombardi, Denzel Washington, numerous wall street CEO’s. An exceptional depth in programs, both business, media communications, liberal arts, languages, preprofessional, and theatre.</p>
<p>Its not where we thought we would end up at the beginning of the process, but at the end of the day, it is where she felt the most challenged, with the best opportunities for the future, with a very unique campus and location, a special Jesuit aura and ethos, and just the right size for her (about 7,000 undergrads on the main campus at Rose Hill, 15,000 total including Lincoln Center and the professional and graduate schools). We recognize its a special place for special people looking for something special. Its not for everyone. Nor is Harvard, Princeton and Yale.</p>
<p>We had our hearts broken at another un-named school. Very frustrating and frankly shocking considering her credentials and other factors. But we moved on quickly…partly out of cathartic necessity and partly out of time pressures (she was an ED applicant there). We know that Admissions Officers have a tough job picking from THOUSANDS…often TENS OF THOUSANDS of highly qualified applicants at many schools. So we dont begrudge the school for an admissions “mistake” as we see it. We move on and look what happened? Like a gift from Almighty God, Fordham appeared on our screens…and after a visit, some DEEP research and comparisons…she made that choice…out of several excellent schools that had admitted her (cf. the one that gave us the big R that shocked us so badly).</p>
<p>Best of luck to you all, and remember…there is a school (or two or three out there) that loves you and wants you and you would be VERY happy attending. Be not afraid…</p>
<p>be proud.</p>
<p>We are.</p>