Thanks, BookLvr! Your DD and mine do sound similar. We visited Vassar and my DD, just like yours, gasped at the library both inside and out. We haven’t visited Wesleyan (and that ship has sailed, as DD is a senior) but she has applied there too so we’ll see. DD might want to check out if there is a campus dance event at Vassar similar to Terpsichore at Wes–what a good idea to open up the art form to everyone.
I will add this about Vassar for your student. My DD found it to be very welcoming. We were not going on any special day for visitors with extra events, just a regular “tour and info session” day, so she e-mailed ahead of time and asked if she could briefly stop in and see the theater and dance departments. She ended up immediately invited to take part in two dance classes, spent a lot of time with the instructor getting a tour of the department, then had a long tour and talk with someone in the theater department. They took a lot of one on one time for a totally random senior who was visiting. That left both her and me with an excellent impression. (I have to add for full disclosure that William and Mary’s departments were also very amenable to her arranging to stop by and talk with people including department heads, so kudos to them as well!) So as your DD looks at colleges, encourage her to contact staff directly if her official visit isn’t scheduled to see departments she really wants to visit.