<p>Perhaps Coe doesn’t know exactly “what” misogyny means. If he states as most men are in society. I guess it is how one interprets “how most men are”.</p>
<p>Northstar: thanks for the clarification…didn’t see that particular interview, only the Today show one (and i was too lazy to watch the link posted)…</p>
<p>the latter part of the interview is a little weird though, Coe comments that he’s been “hearing that alot since the news broke”…and “people are starting to talk about that.”…what people is he referring to? the mental health professionals? or his classmates at Albany?</p>
<p>Edit: that “how most men are” comment creeps me out (I have two daughters)…</p>
<p>Most of the news reports that I’ve seen say he’s a second-year med student, but a few say that he’s a premed. I’m a little confused about his status.</p>
<p>I think that some reporters erroneously think that med school students are called “premed students” not “med school students”. That appears to be the mistake in the initial article that I posted that led to the misleading title on this thread.</p>
<p>northstarmom–just read same piece.<br>
“I heard that a lot,” Coe said. And I’ve been hearing that a lot since [the news] broke. And it’s that misogyny and male entitlement [that] really comes out, and people are starting to talk about that."</p>
<p>I am glad to see that when interviewed this young man was making the connection between entitlement, misogyny and violence. imo- its important to recognize that hateful comments can be indicative of potential violence</p>
<p>yes, where there’s smoke…</p>
<p>“erhaps Coe doesn’t know exactly “what” misogyny means. If he states as most men are in society. I guess it is how one interprets “how most men are”.”</p>
<p>I think he probably is a misogynist and his friends are all misognists, so he assumes all men are that way. His dad probably was that way, too.</p>
<p>^^ Yep, that statement creeped me out as well, if most young men think/feel that way</p>
<p>NY Times article has a picture of him at a white coat ceremony and says he is a second year med student at BU. Ugh. Disgusting on so many fronts.</p>
<p>The picture in the NY Times was from the Boston Globe, which in 2007 had published pictures of BU med students getting their white coats.</p>
<p>Like Ted Bundy was, he’s a handsome guy:
[BU</a> student charged in hotel killing - Local News Updates - The Boston Globe](<a href=“http://www.boston.com/news/local/breaking_news/2009/04/bu_student_char.html]BU”>http://www.boston.com/news/local/breaking_news/2009/04/bu_student_char.html)</p>
<p>Police Say Accused Craigslist Killer Owed Gambling Debts</p>
<p>[Police</a> Say Accused Craigslist Killer Owed Gambling Debts - ABC News](<a href=“Police Say Accused Craigslist Killer Owed Gambling Debts - ABC News”>Police Say Accused Craigslist Killer Owed Gambling Debts - ABC News)</p>
<p>THIS is strange :</p>
<p>Friends said they didn’t even know he and McAllister were engaged.</p>
<p>I think that it’s still very hard to pick up signs that someone could be like this. I would like to see what the parents are like as that would be one of things that I’d want my daughter to look at in a potential husband or even as a date. Hard to do on a college campus but the parents can tell you a lot about the son. One other problem is that young folks can ignore a lot of signs when they’re caught up in the excitement of dating where rationality goes out the window.</p>
<p>It’s can be hard to tell that someone is a psychopathic killer. It’s not that hard, though, to figure out someone is a misogynist.</p>
<p>One of my social worker friends dropped a guy on the second date after he said “jokingly”, “If you were my woman, I’d slap you for saying that.”</p>
<p>Red flags that warned me off guys included a guy who “joked” tat he likedhis women “Barefoot and pregnant”. He also thought it was “funny” to call me “dummy”. </p>
<p>Other red flags: Men who think that some women “ask to be raped” by their clothing, because they flirt, etc. </p>
<p>More things to talk about with one’s daughters.</p>
<p>“Friends said they didn’t even know he and McAllister were engaged.”</p>
<p>Maybe he was lying to her about the engagement. Decades ago, I learned that a boyfriend whose red flags I had been ignoring, had asked a woman to marry him and then stood her up at the courthouse – at the same time that he was dating me. I found out when I read his mail. Yeah, that was a bad thing to do, but his mail literally fell to my feet when I was putting something on a shelf in his closet. It fell open to the letter about how she was hurt by his not marrying her. </p>
<p>Sadly, I didn’t immediately break up with that loser. Fortunately, I moved away shortly after, and distance ended our relationship. I learned a lot from that including that psychopathic people can be cute and charming, and I needed to act with more good sense!</p>
<p>You just never know about people. A couple years ago I was on a jury for a rape case where the guy was accused of raping his mentally disabled girlfriend. This guy had already been in prison for multiple sexual assaults, including raping a woman in her car while her young son was in the front seat and trying to kidnap a girl who was standing at a bus stop. He didn’t look like anyone out of the ordinairy. He wasn’t physically large or ominous looking. He was a small, mousy, middle-aged man. You could have stood behind him line at the bank and not thought he was different from anyone else. It was on the inside that he was rotten.</p>
<p>Edit: Though if someone is misogynistic, controlling, and/or racist, that is certainly a sign that they are a loser to be avoided.</p>
<p>[One of my social worker friends dropped a guy on the second date after he said “jokingly”, “If you were my woman, I’d slap you for saying that.”]</p>
<p>If the guy is a good liar, then I’d think that he would be able to hide that from a girlfriend. I think that these people are exceedingly rare and that they can be convincingly deceptive. They all seem to make mistakes but they seem to be able to win the confidence of others.</p>
<p>Among other things, the police used IP addresses to pinpoint the location of the suspect. The police believe his motive was to pay off gambling debt. </p>
<p>[Report:</a> Guns, Plastic Ties Found In Accused Killer’s Apartment - Boston News Story - WCVB Boston](<a href=“http://www.thebostonchannel.com/news/19238905/detail.html]Report:”>http://www.thebostonchannel.com/news/19238905/detail.html)</p>
<p>I’m very glad the police believe they have the right guy. Two of my kids are currently using Craigslist to find housing in Boston, and it creeped me out knowing that a killer was also using Craigslist to find his potential victims.</p>
<p>No question here that the perpetrator of these crimes is a sociopath whom needs a very, very long jail sentence. But I’d like to think that in our collective sorrow we would caution people about soliciting sex from strangers on the Internet.</p>
<p>mapesy, make sure your kids check out the landlords carefully…their have been some scam people out there on craigslist.</p>
<p>I feel so sorry for the young woman he was engaged to. However, I guess it’s better for the arrest to occur now rather than after they married. That’s not much consolation, I’m sure…but still…</p>
<p>As some of you may know from earlier posts, my kid’s getting married this summer. Kids have a wedding website. So did the accused killer and his fiancee. (It’s been taken down.) The wedding was scheduled for mid August. </p>
<p>The young woman is also a med student. They met when both were students at SUNY Albany and volunteered in the same hospital. Thus, they have been dating a while. </p>
<p>One thing I haven’t seen any reference to. The wedding website supposedly (according to bloggers) had a poll with four choices for a honeymoon. (This is typical of wedding websites and is part of the software package for some of the prototypes.) One of the choices was Mohegan Sun. </p>
<p>The police statements say that they believe that the motive was paying off gambling debts. The inclusion of the Mohegan Sun as a choice for honeymoon destinations fits right into that.</p>
<p>While everyone is innocent until proven guilty, it does look like a strong case. Assuming he is guilty, I don’t think we have to assume the guy was a psychopath. This is probably a guy with a gambling problem who owed money to some not all that nice people. He chose young women who would probably have a lot of cash and who probably would be very reluctant to turn to the police. One fought back–maybe he just panicked. </p>
<p>It’s a sad story all around–mostly for the victim , of course, who seems to have been a beautiful young woman with a drinking problem that kept her from holding down a job, a young man who probably has a serious addiction to gambling, and a young woman who loves him.</p>
<p>Ted Bundy was a very bright attractive psycho-killer too. Some guys are just nuts. Even white, bright attractive ones.</p>