Your counselor may be advising you based on personal experience and recent feedback, or perhaps based on sources such as the Princeton Review, in which Wesleyan places fourth in the Reefer Madness category. I’d suggest that your daughter inform her choice with an awareness of these types of sources and impressions, but also through her own, as well as your, recent and direct experiences. With respect to gaining further perspective, a good social contrast to Wesleyan might be Swarthmore. Even if she has no current interest in Swarthmore, it could be a good school to visit in order to refine her understanding of the type of college she would prefer. If at that time she remains drawn to Wesleyan, then I think she could proceed more confidently with an application there.