Really just came here to vent. We’ve been working so hard on getting our older cat to be OK with our younger cat, and we’d been making strides, but tonight the younger cat went after older cat AGAIN. The problem seems to be when the older cat runs the younger cat chases, and when the older cat runs fast, the younger cat tackles her. Not that I mean to “blame the victim” at all, but it’s just what seems to happen. He’s 15.5 lbs and has very sharp claws. She’s less than 9 lbs. I feel so bad, and our older cat spends much of her day in our bedroom (we do switch them out for at least a couple of hours each day). I don’t know what the right thing to do is. We’ve been dealing with this for months. We did buy the younger cat a very fancy cat wheel, to help get his energy out, which he is using at least some (just got it this week), but I’m not sure they can exist in the same house. We are very attached to both cats. UGH… I thought we were almost “there”!
I am sorry. I have mentioned that I’m pretty sure one of ours is part bengal. He has the swirls on his side, and as a kitten he was the WILDEST kitten we ever had by far. And also such a jumper. Even at 15.5, he is so graceful when he jumps, though he doesn’t go from the floor to the top of the ceiling fans (with 10.5 foot ceilings) anymore.
But that is why we now have 4 cats. The other two when we got him were middle aged and had no interested in playing with a kitten. So we got another kitten…
He’s also not as big as yours or a normal bengal? He’s got a super long body compared to all our others, but he’s so sleek, I’d put his around 11-12 pounds. And all of our other cats seem to be/have been in 12-15 range
Our (old - now retired) vet said he got 2 kittens because he thought that would help with not bothering the older cat. Then both kittens just tortured older cat :).
ETA - our guy jumps from the top of the cat tree to the floor (cat tree is less than 6 feet) and I think he’s been tempted to jump from the top of our cabinets but hasn’t yet as far as I know. He is a menace, but he purrs very loudly and is very loving sometimes.
That’s why I wouldn’t recommend you do it. Too great of an opportunity for it to backfire. But in our case, the older ones weren’t being tortured. They could hold their own. They just weren’t any fun for the kitten.
I hope he settles down soon. Tebow definitely has. He’s very much a lap cat now. You’d never know we had to lock him in the bathroom while we ate dinner to have some peace. We called it “Tebow Time Out.” He would zip through the dining room, and in one quick swoop, snatch something off your plate and run away with it. He once grabbed a hard boiled egg!
That is very funny! What a character!
I’m not going to be a much help with a solution. We had two old lady cats (8 years old) when we rescued Toby. He definitely needed a playmate and our older cats would have none of that. He terrorized both (not intentionally) exactly as your young cat does. One adapted somewhat and the other spent the last years of her life in hiding, cautiously coming out to eat. Toby stalked her because it was fun. We tried everything known to man (and vet and internet): nothing worked. We kept all three cats but it never got better than that. Sometime it just doesn’t. Crossing my fingers for you though.
On the up side, after the older cats passed, Toby welcomed two kittens happily and then a few years later another two. Yes, I had five cats at one point, though just four at the moment. I do have one that gets picked on but not to extent you describe. The one that gets picked on makes it fun for the two youngest.
My son’s bengal will take whole loaves of bread from the kitchen counter and take them down to his hiding place in the basement. Or bags of chips, or whatever is laying around. He was evil to our older cat (not gone) when he was young, and he has turned into a lovely cat, so I have hope for our young guy.
I’ve probably mentioned here that we got a fancy cat wheel for him. Here he is. He is using it multiple times a day. Not for long stretches, but he knows it’s his and what to do with it.
I didn’t realize how huge it was! I was envisioning something more like a hamster wheel!
I hope your guy mellows out soon. Our male cat was harassing our resident white cat when we took him and his sister in. He was about 2 years old and very muscular, so wars were epic. Our white cat hissed so loudly you’d think it was a car tire pictured with a nail giving up the air! The harassment stopped eventually… probably took a year. He still chases his sister and the whitey, mostly at night, judging by the white and black/orange fur I sometimes find on the floor in the morning. So keeping my fingers crossed for your guy!
Right? And that is not a small kitty!
Any why yes I do have both a fancy indoor bike AND a fancy cat wheel in our “formal living room” 
During COVID we threw out the old furniture the cats destroyed over many years, and just never got new. We went with nice furniture for our TV room but didn’t bother to replace living room furniture.
Because he is so big we felt like we had to get the Ziggy Do “Ferris wheel” as opposed to one of the smaller/less expensive wheels. Hopefully it will be money well spent. BUT I gotta say, the best cat toys we’ve purchased lately are $9.99 long brightly colored “tunnels” from Amazon. Both of our cats LOVE them.
Uh oh @BunsenBurner - tell us about potential “Aloha cat” - hope he/she is OK and doesn’t ruin your vacation!
@1214mom Our dude cat is having some issues with his teeth, it looks like. 
Taking him in tomorrow and bracing for a $5K bill.
We nicknamed our dog “Aloha dog” after he depleted our vacation budget (and vacation days for his rehab) when he needed spinal surgery. That procedure was $8K back in the day and had only 20% success rate. It was a miracle that he recovered so well.
My younger kitty has a lump on her rear left leg. Took her to the vet this morning and the news is all bad. She likely has osteosarcoma. This is an aggressive and especially painful cancer that does not respond to chemo or radiation. The only treatment is amputation of entire leg to the hip. And even with radical amputation, survival is only a year at best.
We will have a family meeting once the biopsy results come back to confirm the tentative diagnosis, but we will likely be euthanizing Koshka.
I just euthanized by sweet brown tabby 2 weeks ago, so this is hitting me hard.
I’m so sorry. Losing a pet is heartbreaking, and it is even more heartbreaking when the pet is so young. 
I’m sorry about your kitty. It is so difficult to lose a pet and especially when they are so young. Hugs to you!
I’d like to give you a bit of hope. My then 14yo cat was also diagnosed with an osteosarcoma on her rear leg and we chose amputation to give her pain relief. She recovered quite well and was walking and even jumping easily about a week after the surgery.
We got her biopsy results soon after the amputation and it was definitely osteosarcoma but a slow growing type. Gracie lived another 3 years and she continued chasing and dominating her younger “brothers” till she died.
So sorry you’ve got more bad kitty news. Hugs
Update on our “Aloha Cat”: he’s lost a fang somehow but otherwise his teeth are ok. Phew. Only $500 including the bloodwork, blood pressure (what an ordeal lol), etc. - his bloodwork looks good. The blood pressure is typically taken several times in a row, and the readings expectedly jumped up when someone brought a very barky dog to the room next to ours. 
The vet was concerned about his small weight loss, but this cat decided that he doesn’t like his diet dry food anymore… so he is eating wet foods only. Still doesn’t look like he is skinny. So we shelved other tests for the time being. Phew.