<p>I joined facebook at my 27 year old niece’s urging for one reason only. In order to find friends, and have them find me, from long ago under my maiden name. No one would ever find me, since everyone with my maiden name has left the area in which I grew up. So I joined facebook using my maiden and married name. And a friend and I reconnected after about 25 years. She found me using my maiden name. Unfortunately, I have had friend requests from people with whom I’d rather not be in close contact, so I ignore them. I have told my 20, 22, and 24 year old kids that if their friends see my name pop up as a possible friend, ignore it. I promised them I would never look at their friends pages. I just don’t think it’s any of my business, at their ages (since many are still in college) to know exactly what they do and with whom. If my kids want to tell me, that’s their choice.</p>
<p>^^^^ My policy exactly!</p>
<p>Lurkness,
If I want to “unhide” the person I hid, how do I do that?</p>
<p>*** Also, in many cases, one cant see the pages of friends friends unles they made it “open”. Most of the time you have to “friend” them and have tham accept before you can see their pages. I agree with threekids and lurkness, I dont look at my kids friends stuff, and I found it kinda creepy when the mother of a friend of my s’s “friended” him (yes he knows her, but still…thats weird). He didnt wuite know how to respond, and didnt want to be rude, so dhe decided to put her on limited access and then probably quietly un-friend her at some later point, since it isnt obvious when you “unfriend” someone. I thought that was a clever idea.</p>
<p>On your news feed (which is the first screen you see when you log in to Facebook or hit Home), go to the bottom of the page. Right underneath the last post, you’ll see Edit Options. Click on that, and you’ll get a list of all the people you’ve hidden, and you will be able to add them back.</p>
<p>Why does Facebook make this so difficult? :)</p>
<p>Thanks, lurkness!! How did you learn all this stuff???</p>
<p>Did FB ever decide to provide a way to contact them (e.g. phone #) after that incident a month or so ago when someone’s account was hijacked and the hijacker convinced the person’s friends that he was stuck in London and needed money wired to him? That was scary. Also, one of my adult “friends” on FB had his account either hacked or spammed or something. It sent out some weird thing referencing seeing inappropriate videos of his FB “friends”. Creepy.</p>
<p>OK another “how to” question. I registered my name without my maiden name. Now I want to go back and add it. How?</p>
<p>Thanks!</p>
<p>Jolynne, you might see if they are on LinkedIn instead of Facebook. That is a more “professional” way to keep linked with them. Some of the more career-savvy younger folks are on it. Doesn’t result in many of those “eyeopening” moments RobD referred to!</p>
<p>Chedva,
Go to the “settings” option on the right side of the top blue bar. Then select “account settings” and you’ll see the option to change your name. I believe it is the first option at the top. (That one I knew, as I did the same thing so that old HS friends and some long lost relatives could find me via my maiden name).</p>
<p>Out of curiosity, I’ve checked out where my high school Facebook friends went to college. It’s usually in their info section, so I never had to ask. </p>
<p>None of the people who connected with me went to Ivies, and they’ve all had interesting lives, which probably do reflect their college experiences (regardless of where they went, college certainly must have influenced their lives) as well as their talents, interests, and ways of encountering the world. That to me is what leads to a successful life, which I consider a life in which one feels fulfilled. Whether or not that includes what most people would consider success doesn’t matter to me.</p>
<p>I always thought that social networking sites were a waste of time for university students but I changed my mind a bit this morning. Son had a job opening at a top 20 LAC for a Social Network developer. Full-time benefits, 32 hours a week, telecommuting options.</p>
<p>$50,000/year. It’s funded for 5 years by an NSF grant. Sounds like a pretty nice job for someone with a new CIS degree. It doesn’t even look like you’d need a CS degree for this position.</p>
<p>I married my high school sweetheart so HS people know both of us. H doesn’t have a facebook but his old friends have contacted us through mine.</p>
<p>In a friend request, one of his HS friends mentioned an unusual kind of pizza we (the friend and I) both like.</p>
<p>What??? I don’t remember ever eating pizza with you, buddy. And why do you remember the variety 28 years later??? creepy.</p>
<p>Given that I got out of my hometown as fast as I could, I have no interest in reviving high school friendships.
So, is there any other reason to go on FB?</p>
<p>I keep up with friends that are local on facebook (some that I see every day practically, but since they have pictures up and updates, I get those) and some that I see rarely but feel like I see because I get their updates.</p>
<p>I have far flung relatives and friends too, and now feel like I am in much better touch…pictures, events, news, quick notes are all easier.</p>
<p>There are lots of reasons to be on facebook- but it is not for everybody. I happen to like social networking and am facebook friends with people from this forum (fun to see pics of their families and keep up with their interests in a more “real” sort of way), from my athletic forums and with local and distant friends. It seems to be how more and more people communicate- the status message is now your personal statement to your world!
My husband has no use for facebook, but he isn’t very social and could live forever only seeing our pets, his bicycles and the tools in his garage! (not an insult- a fact with which he would agree)
Once I reconnect with someone, it may just be a quick exchange or it may be a complete renewal of a relationship. To me, it’s a lot of fun.</p>
<p>DS#2 isn’t the greatest about picking up the phone or responding to voicemails and now that he has an Apple, uses a different kind of instant messenging. I am not often on line on FB, but occasionally I happen to be on when he is, and can catch him for a quick chat or to get a question answered, which just happened a short time ago. Very handy for that quick opportunity to touch base. He has me on restricted access to his FB, which is fine with me. I don’t need/want to see his chatter with his friends.</p>
<p>The thing that I find just a bit disturbing is the access you have to other people, without their permission. Let me explain. One of my FB friends commented on a photo of someone else I know (but am not friends with - she is one of D2’s friends). My FB friend doesn’t censor any of her facebook actions, meaning you know every place she leaves comments at, etc. So when she commented on this other person’s photo, it automatically places a link to the photo she’s commenting on. So if I click on the link to see the photo, I can then access the whole photo album that this picture was in. And as it ended up, it wasn’t even the photo album of D2’s friend; it was a photo album on D2’s friend’s boyfriend. I was very confused.</p>
<p>You can control who sees your pictures. When you post them you can click on “everyone” “friends of friends” “only friends” “no one”</p>
<p>People just aren’t very diligent about access, I think.</p>
<p>That’s true, but when you tag someone in a photo, that does put the photo into the person’s profile, and then all of that person’s friends can see it, even if you have marked the album “friends only” (meaning your friends only). Also, commenting has a similar effect. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out where your photos and comments will end up.</p>
<p>Bumping this back up to ask for assistance. I’d put someone’s wall posts on “hide” b/c there was a gazillion of them. I think he’s toned the quantity down and now I want to “unhide” them. How do I do that?</p>
<p>At the bottom of your Feed, there is an “edit options” button. That should do it.</p>