Why are you scared? Don’t be scared - just make sure you have a balanced list of reaches, targets, and safeties.
Your dreams are reaches -
What is your state school? AU is not a safety - and you need to demonstrate interest.
So your interests are varied. Does being bi-sexual impact where you want to be?
I’d ask this -
what do you want in a school.
Size - you have BU/NYU and then Carleton/Vassar
Weather
Do you care about sports or greek life
Is there a part of the country you want to be in or avoid?
Given your family AGI - are you willing to pursue schools with higher merit, even if they’re not exactly your cup of tea
Tell us more. The reach schools are easy - it’s those target and safety that aren’t.
An AU - you’re not going to be able to afford most likely. But a College of Charleston, if you get the Fellows and/or International Scholar, you may be able to.
For English, a U of Iowa is a top school.
How about a school like Kalamazoo or Depauw for a liberal arts school or Conway / Ogelthorpe that will match a state school. K and Ogelthorpe are in liberal cities, etc.
Not really giving suggestions but we have to expand your mindset - in part due to costs and in part due to your very good profile…but lots are very good.
Give us more !!!