I’d say that BU belongs in the “lower probability” category with NYU, and Clark belongs in the Likely category. (Great place to apply, though, especially for psych.) And Brandeis can stay in “toss-up” but leans likely, I think.
I think BU is a reasonable place to apply, and I would not be surprised if you got in; they just reject enough qualified applicants that you can’t count on it.
BU does track demonstrated interest, so make sure to engage with them - sign up for emails and open everything they send, attend virtual info sessions, etc.
I double-majored in physical therapy and psych at BU, back in the day, and I had wonderful instructors and mentors in the psych department. (The only one of them who’s still alive is, oddly, the oldest one - Jean Berko Gleason, known for inventing the Wug Test, who is in her mid-90’s and still as sharp as ever - amazing person.)
If you love urban schools like BU and NYU, and can afford out-of-state publics like U of Maryland, how about applying to Pitt? Their admissions are rolling, so you can apply when the app opens on August 1st and have an acceptance in hand by October. An early acceptance can be a huge stress-reducer, and Pitt is one that could be a real contender for you, especially if you get merit and/or Honors College. There’s a reason we often see kids who are deciding between BU and Pitt; they share a lot of the same appealing attributes.
Agreed that you need to run Net Price Calculators and see what’s actually affordable. That isn’t a conversation you want to be having after you’re already accepted somewhere and attached to the idea of attending.
Your profile will give you a lot of good options! Start with a deeper dive on the finances - it’s great that your parents don’t want you to worry, but if you do go to med school, you’re going to need to make the available funds last, so proceeding as if money weren’t an issue isn’t usually the best approach. Good luck - you’ll get lots more good suggestions here if you want them!
ETA definitely apply EA to Rutgers… and if you happen to be female (I don’t think you specified?), check out the Douglass Residential College and associated Women In STEM programs.