Again, since you are so set on supporting the OP’s self-esteem, you might want to go back and at least re-read her comments. She agreed with my assessment that her parents would not allow her to apply to Wesleyan or to any other high-flying LAC. And, I don’t know anything about you (nor you me), but I do have Asian and Asian American friends. So, this was not just a stab in the dark, but based on many informal conversations on the subject with people who have had to grapple with the same or similar family situations.
So, before we descend any further into the world of ad hominem attacks let’s once again agree to just disagree.