Yes I am concerned with both the OPs self esteem and giving her solid fact based advice. I remain of the opinion that she should apply to a combination of reach, match and safety schools. I also think several of the reaches could and should include some of either the Ivies or other elites I previously referenced based entirely upon fit so she can customize her applications and maximize her likely acceptance. Do you still disagree based upon ; “if Brown rejects you it is likely all will”?
As far as your other comment she responded regarding “her parents” not on behalf of the “Asian community” at large (whatever that is intended to mean). The image of the “Tiger Parent is a pejorative caricature and grouping culturally diverse groups under a broad general heading such as “Asian” is fraught with inaccuracy and offensive (48 countries and 4.1 billion people can’t be collectively defined). I am avoiding an ad homenim attack in that I don’t think you meant it that way, but similarly you shouldn’t dismiss it for what it is by saying some of your friends are Asian and they think it is ok.
So to the OP why is it not in her interest to have several reach schools some of which could be Ivies if she believes there is a fit?