This is why her GC will be so important- s/he will know how your daughter’s application will stack up relative to her cohort. The school may not officially rank, but there are several pieces of info that let colleges know where a student falls relative to their peers.
Also, this may seem a very small point, but it is part of a mental shift that matters for both parents and students: you are correct when you say “we will not be applying to…”- b/c WE won’t be applying anywhere. Your daughter is the one who will be applying and attending university. Of course there is help and support and encouragement along the way! But it is important to see it as her process.