Well, why don’t you look on some of the previous posts, on this website, from international students, who are now asking for funding resources because they didn’t get enough funding to attend the universities that accepted them.
As for the $80,000 price tag that’s going to happen, at least at the UCs, because you also need to pay for additional medical insurance, as well as, any other fees that aren’t covered under tuition and room and board.
Please go on some of the websites of the schools that you’ve selected and look at whether or not they fund international students.
Let me just reiterate, need blind means that when the admissions committee reviews your application, they don’t look at whether or not you will need funding to attend their university. That is a completely different building and department. It DOES NOT MEAN that they will blindly consider you and will automatically fund you.
As for STEM women in engineering, and finding scholarships, there are some, but when our daughter went to school, 15 years ago, there were fewer females in engineering and computer software. She was funded at that time. Now, we have the Society for Women Engineers that is bursting in membership.
With the list of schools that you have selected, do some research and do yourself a favor by investigating funding sources. Open up their financial aid pages, on their websites, and see whether or not they’ll fund you.
From UCSD’s website:
International students who have been granted an F1 or F2 student visa, or a J1 or J2 exchange visitor visa are not eligible to apply for financial aid. International students admitted to UC San Diego must prove that they have sufficient funds available to them to pay for their educational and living expenses. Students are encouraged to seek financial aid funds from additional sources in their home countries.
(It took me less than three seconds to find this-“UCSD International student financial aid.”)