Do you have a test score - I know UCs won’t take but others will. I didn’t see.
When you say family income is over $100K, have you done a net price calc on a school like Hopkins…or try Rochester or Case or USC - i.e. schools taht meet need.
Your rigor is outstanding - your UW GPA is a bit low for top schools.
Crocheting is interesting for a male - so I’d get that in your app somewhere.
When you say you may have to pay - then you want to go cheap.
Others will provide you guidance on the UCs - but look at ASU, New Mexico, Utah, Alabama, Miss State…if cost is a factor…or schools like Occidental where you can get decent aid.