You need the narrow in here. Schools like UIUC are $60k plus. CU, Purdue, $50k plus. Auburn, even with good merit, over $40k whereas Bama and UAH under $20k.
These schools are all great as is ERAU and similarly Florida Tech.
But you have to get a handle on finances. There’s no reason to apply to schools you can’t afford and it doesn’t sound like you know what you can afford. Or at least you need to add a school or two you know you can afford just in case you find out your list is too rich.
You certainly don’t need debt for an aero degree where most schools are substitutional.
The sooner your family can figure out the finances the better. You want to ensure you can potentially attend every school you apply to.
But if you find out you can only spend $30k a year, as an example, then most of your list is wasted.
So please figure that out sooner than later.