My analysis is simply on admission. Sorry to hear about your family - and that’s super incredible yo uare helping them - and if you have to sacrifice and go cheaper/closer, you will realize in ten and 20 years that you made the right choice!! You, not the college, will make your success and I can already see you will be a huge success!!!
There are, I believe only three publics in the country, that meet need. UVA, UNC, and maybe U Michigan. Any other OOS school, unless they share reciprocity with KY, should be eliminated - unless they are dirt cheap - W Carolina, Cincy, UAH (you’ll score a great deal), Southern Illiniois, etc.
You have rigor and that’s great. But if you submit a test score I believe it will greatly hurt you.
The only ones on your list I see you getting into admission wise are Louisville, UK, and maybe Rose Hulman - but it’s very pricy. btw - UK and Louisville are both solid schools - and UK has a growing reputation.
You have as a safety but I don’t see you getting into OSU - but it would be next. I think UIUC, Va Tech, and Purdue, in CS, are a reach. If it was math and not CS - then you’d get in all three.
You really need to look at schools that meet demonstrated need - even if you have to take care of some folks - well especially if you need to because it will be the only way to afford.
So you need to look at QB like others have said - or schools like Miami (Florida). And not out of state publics because they will not help you financially. If you do look, look at 2nd tier schools - who will have much lower tuition.
Note that some schools are need aware - so if you have too much need - they can turn you down so they don’t have to pay. The top schools are need blind - meaning they don’t look at your need when deciding to admit you.
I think for any top schools you need to apply without a test unless it’s required (Florida schools).
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