Agree with @tsbna44 - until the financials are known it’s difficult to give much guidance. The schools almost universally have net price calculators for expected family contribution. They’re not 100% accurate but will usually be in the ballpark of what you’re looking at.
The NAAB has a list on their website of all the 5 year B-Arch programs - last I looked there is was about 50 of them. Really helps narrow down a potential list of schools. The admit rates to B-Arch programs is typically low and often substantially lower than the broader school numbers. Academically you’re a strong student and that will help.
You don’t mention a portfolio in your initial write-up. Do you have one? Have you had anyone look at it to give guidance on how good it is?
UT-Austin and NC State severely limit the number of admits from OOS irrespective of program - so would consider those long shots (even if affordable).