I’m not sure why you have all of these out of state state schools on your list.
Unless you get merit, they’ll cost way more than Rutgers, and they aren’t really any better than Rutgers, except for UNC and U VA. Both of the latter schools are difficult for an out of state to get into (especially UNC), and then you’ll need to get aid.
Run the NPC for every school, of course.
BU is notorious for not coming close to meeting need and for charging a ton. Run the NPC, but drop it if the cost is high.
Rochester is a great school, and doesn’t get the attention and recognition it deserves. They give excellent aid and merit scholarships if you qualify. Run the NPC here. If you get no aid, you probably won’t get enough merit to bring the cost down to $50K. If you have need, they could be cheaper than Rutgers, depending on your need. They meet full need, but are need aware.
To me, the two best academic schools in here are Rochester and Case Western, followed by RPI if you don’t mind a STEM school. (I prefer smaller schools and smaller classes).
Bear in mind that athletics are just another activity unless you are recruitable. I think they’re a great activity, but I believe admissions not only sees a lot of them, but, especially at the small schools, they have so many recruited athletes that they’re not excited about seeing additional athletes.They’re good to round you out - too many applicants look like just another nerd, as their applications are filled with math and chess and robotics and science fairs - but don’t headline them or your achievements in them, such as most goals scored in JV team.