You can take the required courses for medical school applicants at just about every four year college in this country, arts conservatories excluded. And you can do shadowing, etc during school breaks and in the summer. There are opportunities to volunteer with less privileged populations at just about every college.
Medical schools will cost $100,000 a year of more by the time you get there…if you do. The structure of federally funded direct loans has changed with the aggregate amount limit (including undergrad) at $200,000. So those federally funded loans won’t cover four years if medical school costs. Please keep that in mind.
Bs/MD programs are highly highly competitive and should all be in your reach list categorization.
I don’t think “virtual shadowing” will be highly regarded by those BS MD programs. @WayOutWestMom can tell me if I’m correct.
At this point, I would suggest you put medical school ideas on hold. Your goal right now is to find undergrad programs where you can see yourself being happy for four years, at least one where you are pretty much guaranteed acceptance, and that are affordable (preferably without loans).
You should also be thinking about a Plan B which every medical school aspirant needs to have.