I wasn’t really interested in college prior to my extracurricular experiences. I only found a passion for it last year for school. If I could go back in time and start all over, I think finishing it within 2 years wouldn’t be a problem for me. There was a class that I previously dropped and failed, but I retook that class again last year. I was one of the top 2 students who got a perfect grade on all the exams, while the class average was around 70 or something. I believe my extracurricular activities are even better than some Ivy League students’ extracurriculars. I have friends who attend some of the best universities in the world, and their extracurriculars are not even close to mine. I do know that a lot of Ivy League students are talented and have better ECs than me. My point is that I would do fine at an Ivy League. I’m different than before. It is not the same or fair comparison. I got Fs because I was too focused on the other stuff not because I was dumb and I couldn’t learn.
Chance Me with low GPA and 11 Ws +5Fs (CC transfer student) [VA resident, 3.1 college GPA, CS major]
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" However, my current doctor doesn’t want to give me a referral to another doctor because he worries that he will lose his business,"
That is HIGHLY unlikely. First of all, the waiting list for many mental health professionals is months and months long. They are overloaded with referrals and many ae unable to take new clients. So it is HIGHLY unlikely your provider is worried one lick about losing a client.
Secondly often those prescribing meds are not also simultaneously providing therapy. Many appointments are 15 minute med checks which differ from the 45-50 minute “therapy hour”.
Given your ADHD, perhaps you should consider an executive function coach, who could help you with time management, organization, structure, how to prioritize, and how to be specific, rather that vague and scattered. Hope that helps.
This sounds expensive to me. I have FEP BCBS. Do you happen to know if my federal employee insurance would cover something like this?
And sometimes things change and you need more than just that 15 minute med check regardless of the diagnosis, especially if the meds aren’t working as well as they used to or other issues crop up. Several of my kids are medicated for various reasons, adhd being just one of them.
I’ve also told him many times to provide me with a recommendation to a therapy doctor, but he always gaslights me without answering.
Yes it will. That is excellent insurance. Look on your website. Now get back to work. You are wasting our tax dollars!
I personally thing most people need more than just med management. IMO med management should be secondary to the therapy.
No one is saying that you are too dumb to attend an Ivy League.
What we are saying is that you don’t believe enough in yourself to think that the only way out for you, to prove to yourself and to others of your skills, is to only attend an Ivy League. This is why you really need to monitor your ADHD on a weekly basis.
This is your itch that you can’t seem to scratch. It’s mentally in your head that all your problems will be solved if you only attend an Ivy League.
You’re perseverating on other things because it’s hard for you to direct your next steps.
Before you can attend the stress of an Ivy League, you need to take care of your personal issues.
But you’re not hearing that from us so, shoot your shot and apply.
Every university expects their students to be efficient In their time at their schools. True, especially at an Ivy League school.
I absolutely agree that you need an executive function coach to help you direct your energy to productive tasks so that you can complete your education wherever that may be.
Your self-worth isn’t a measure of where you go to school. This is some thing that you do not understand now which is why you are stagnant and require personal intervention.
There are of Ivy league grads who have done nothing beyond going to these schools.
Professional help should help you sort out what your priorities should be.
Agreed but sometimes both are needed, and sometimes conditions can change and additional therapy/meds need changing.
Yes, of course. But research has shown that it’s the combination of med management and concomitant therapy that works best in the management of ADHD.
As for colleges (ESPECIALLY the top ones), they need to see clear evidence that a potential student will complete courses successfully and graduate. They are not in the business, especially for the very, very few transfer slots, of taking a student who has a track record of withdraws, drops and fails.
But it could be something in addition to adhd, things can change over time.
Yes, I know, but at present, this is what the poster is being treated for. And with the care of BOTH a therapist and someone coordinating med management, they should be on top of the patient’s needs.
You need to totally let go of this idea.
I’m not an expert in this area. You aren’t asking for another doctor. You are asking for some referral for counseling to deal with your personal issues.
I would defer to your medical team on this. But I would be persistent and explain why you would like a referral.
And again I say…apply broadly to a variety of colleges. But please, remember, there are students who are as smart and innovative as you everywhere…not just top schools.
As mentioned, schools like Bentley, Babson, and Bryant really like that entrepreneur spirit.
As a 24 year old, if you are a female, would you consider a women’s college.
Another thought, you apparently have a very successful business. So…why college at all? You have made some good connections and seem to be able to do well…without college.
It worked for Steve Jobs and Bill Gates. They found their very successful niches.
What do you mean by losing a sense of self if you attended UVA or GMU?
I think the schools mentioned above- Bentley etc are great suggestions.
You need therapy in addition to the doctor who is prescribing you medication. Find one who specializes in ADHD or lists it as an area of practice.
The other provider may be another doctor (Ph.D or Psy.D Psychologist, DSW - Social worker, DNP - nurse practitioner, etc) but would not likely be an MD or DO. The other provider might be a licensed masters level therapist or counselor. There are several options available for additional services, and some may also provide the executive function coaching.
Exactly. I meant the person for counseling would not be another medical doctor.
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