You shouldn’t move for this reason. A girl who is unmotivated for schoolwork and college applications (although she isn’t doing too badly, from what you describe, although you don’t mention specifically what last semester’s grades were, and how her grades are running this semester), and who has friends who are not bad people, just who are similar to her in not being motivated about schoolwork, is not going to be helped by a move. She’s not suddenly going to become the top student in a new school with all new friends who are all highly motivated top students! She’s far, far more likely to become socially isolated and seriously depressed in the new environment, and be online/on the device even MORE with her old friends.
You aren’t going to get fin aid, if your income is over 200K. It is not worth paying double for an OOS public, or triple for a private college in this situation. Your best bet, by far, is staying put, and having her go in-state public. You can sit down with her and have an honest discussion (assuming that both parents are on the same page). Does she want to go to college? No? Then she will begin working right after high school, and pay you room and board (which of course you’ll save for her, without telling her that); in fact, she could begin with a little part time job now, that will become a full time job this summer, and you take a high proportion of her earnings to help with room and board, leaving her with some pocket money. If she’s driving a family car, that money goes to pay for the increased insurance, and the gas. I really hope you haven’t bought her her own car - if you have, then add in the car payment, too. If the answer is yes, she does want to go to college, then she will go to the best in-state school she can get into, with the deal being that she gets ONE semester to prove herself, get decent grades, and if she doesn’t, she transfers back home, lives at home, and tries the nearby 4 yr state college or even community college that has a transfer agreement to the 4 yr college (hopefully flagship), to go back with her Associate’s degree. She doesn’t do the work there, while living at home? Back to the step of working while living at home and paying you room and board. Don’t nag her, don’t harangue her - just state the facts. If she has a sudden transformation, and works very hard, and gets straight A’s this semester, and starts assiduously prepping herself for the ACT/SAT, then fine, you can pivot back to the college search and readjust your plans. But from what you’re describing, really, almost none of the schools on your list are appropriate for a child who just doesn’t seem interested, and for a family who is likely to be deemed full-pay.
I understand your dream, that if you move her, she will suddenly metamorphose into a highly motivated, hard-working, high-achieving student who gets into a top US college and goes on to a high-powered career, earning a great living. And she might yet eventually, but right now, you have a girl who won’t even discuss school/college/studies. STOP planning the impossible dream, start dealing with the reality in front of you.
UConn is less likely than UMass. UConn has become very selective. UMass would probably take her, maybe without merit money. Lots of S Asian students there.
If she’s going through a stage where she doesn’t see the benefit of hard work in school, so be it. In the US, we have many, many opportunities to get serious about education. It’s not like other countries, where one is tracked beginning at age 12, and it’s very hard to move up academically after that. She may just take a little longer to grow up. But I would most definitely NOT plan a move based upon trying to get her away from her unmotivated friends - it’s very likely to change nothing, and even more likely to make the situation a lot worse.