<p>DD leavng for college OFFERED to share the bedroom of oldest D (also at college) so little D could have the better bedroom and I could have the tiny one. She, the anal, careful one, even offered for little D, the careless one, to use her good furniture.</p>
<p>I was very proud of her- maybe ask your son if he would like to consider offering that.</p>
<p>The next year when we moved and the same generous DD got no room in the smaller house, she was sad, but the other two Ds were home! She was mature about it, but winsome</p>
<p>Our Son “gave up” his big room to his younger sister a week before he headed to Cornell. It was a good opportunity for both of my kids to give away/donate (or THROW OUT) stuff they had accumulated in their rooms over the year. I dont think son resented the move…although he has noticed that his new room is warmer than his old (much larger) room. </p>
<p>After his freshman year, he went out to OH for a internship and wasnt home for more than a few days at a time so not a huge sacrafice. And this summer he got an internship at local Club but hasnt really complained about living in smaller space. I would expect he will intern in Vegas next summer and then relocate out there after he graduates. So very little time spent in his new “temporary” living space.</p>
<p>My gut says the poor kid is in for enough changes this year, so I’d absolutely let him come home to the room that’s been his home. Maybe after first semester or year or so, it won’t matter so much. Surely younger brother can use the big room when it makes sense while Cornell is gone (the whole time, just for sleepovers, . . . ?).</p>
<p>I totally agree. What’s more, it has been unfair to the younger sibling to have a “super small bedroom” while his older siblings have been having very large ones. And now that older sibling will be gone several months of the year, it will be even more unfair. I’m for thinking more about the younger sibling than about the older one who’s enjoyed having a huge bedroom for 18 years or so.
As long as big brother was living at home, there was some justification for keeping younger brother in the small bedroom. There is none now.</p>
<p>By the way, my philosophy is that none of the space in my house belongs to either of my kids. It’s mine and H’s to dispose of as we see fit and fair. Luckily, Ss have bedrooms of identical size.</p>