My kids are very different from one other. When my D19 faced rejection after not being matched by Questbridge she turned to us for her cue. She is a competitive gymnast, so she knows well that losing is a part of life even when you try your best- but she was worried about our disappointment. It was so important that what she heard from her parents was that it was ok, not a disappointment at all- just a small bump. We made sure before she applied to a single reach that she had a safety acceptance where she would be happy. For D20, who is a dancer, she takes rejection even better. She doesn’t look to us for approval at all really in these matters, so as long as we stay out of our own way she simply takes it in stride. She was recently deferred from her number one choice, and she rolled with it. I personally would have preferred a rejection to a deferral. I think they’re the worst.